Align with Your Design

Q: At WeAlign, you talk about being my authentic self, but I’ve been so programmed by other people’s expectations that I no longer know who I really am.  How can I recover the real me?

A: That’s a great question, and you’re not alone.  I’ve been going through this journey to “re-humanize” myself as well.  Here are five helpful sources that I’ve discovered along the way.

1) ASK THOSE WHO KNOW YOU

Ask close family members, coworkers, and friends to honestly tell you what your strengths and weaknesses are. They can point out your good and bad blind spots, and be a great “mirror” for you. Note: pay special attention if more than one person points out the same thing.

2) ASK YOUR HISTORY

Take some time to reflect on the accomplishments in your life and note the times you felt successful, fully alive, or in your “zone.”  It’s a big help if you write these down. For each scenario, ask yourself:

• What was the setting?

• What skills and talents did you use?

• What roles did you serve?

Do you see patterns of traits that show up multiple times?  Those are aspects of your core design shining through. When you align with your design, you get the best results.

3) ASK SCIENCE

We live in a time where the science of personality development is exploding. It’s worth your time and expense to take an assessment or two to better understand how you’re wired.

I’ve seen huge results as I’ve coached clients through the WeAlign Strengths Alignment Package. I also like gifttest.org, and DISC, and I know people who prefer MBTI, the Enneagram, Colors, and many others. The key is to know what the assessment is attempting to measure as well as its limitations.

4) ASK A PROFESSIONAL

A qualified coach is trained to help you get clarity on your life purpose and calling.  As an objective sounding board, your coach can often accelerate the process and get you results much faster than going it on your own.

5) ASK YOUR CREATOR

Last, but certainly not least, if you want to know your design it makes sense to consult The Designer.

You may have heard it said that your talents are God’s gift to you, but what you do with them is your gift to God.  So it’s logical that God is biased toward helping you understand your design so that you can make a difference in the world. Ask for guidance and understanding in your prayers, and try some spiritual journaling. Ephesians 2:10

SUMMARY

Each of these factors contribute a part of the whole – the bigger picture of your unique design. Be intentional in your discovery, but remember it’s a process that never completely ends, so be patient with yourself.

Do you need help sorting things out? Let’s have a no-obligation call and see if we can move you forward.